Dealing With Conflict

This assignment touched home for, especially with this weekend. My husband and I have a 7 week old baby and we are still working on a sleeping schedule for him. Every week it gets a little bit better but it is still a process none the less. Well my husband believes that it is my responsibility to get up in the middle of the night (sometimes 2 or 4AM) to feed him because he does not (I quote) "feel like getting up". Well I told him sometimes I don't either but he is OUR child and we share the responsibilities as parents. Of course a huge argument broke out and he stressed how he didn't see a problem with it and I should be more understanding to his needs and I had the same argument with him. Finally after a screaming match for about an 1/2 hour I decided to walk away. All day Saturday I did not speak to him because I felt hurt that he could not be understanding to my needs. I felt that we both worked a full time job and I am in school as well as being a new mother. On Sunday my husband sat down with me and apologized for his comments and stated that he wanted to come to some type of agreement. We decided that after work he would allow me some time to complete my school work while he tends to our son. We are agreed that I would go to bed around 8pm and get around 5 hours of sleep before our son wakes up for his night feeding. My husband sits up with him until 11 or 12pm and puts him to bed and he sleeps until 6am so that he can go to work in the morning. We tried our new schedule out last night and I admit that I woke up this morning rested because I was able to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep. By sitting down and having a honest conversation we were able to develop a strategy where both of our needs were met. I am glad this worked out because I am expecting my Valentine's gift this Friday lol.